When I first met fire chief Barry Henby, we were freaking out.
It is a disturbing phenomenon that
young children must have fancy birthday parties, preferably someplace
innovative and expensive. I have never been a planner, plus I am cheap, so I was NOT a fan of this trend when my boys were having their little boy birthday parties.
The fire station seemed like a reasonable choice
for my son Joey’s seventh birthday, because what kid doesn’t love a fire truck? Despite my reluctance to part with money, I would rather write a $150 check than have a bunch
of sugar propelled kids sprinting around my house. This was back when I actually had a corporate job and drawing pencil portraits was just a fun side gig, so I shouldn't complain about the cost, but you know how I enjoy complaining.
If you want me to hate you, be early. |
On the day of the firehouse
party, being the chronically late fool that I am, some of Joey’s guests were already
waiting for us when we breathlessly arrived in a rush of tangled balloons and
plastic bags full of birthdayness. If I
ever invite you to anything, please don’t ever be early. One time a friend came a half hour early to Bunko and I almost punched her.
Enduring
the mild fear that seems to accompany any event where I
am the hostess, I trooped into the fire house with my amused guests and excited children, only to hear that they didn’t
know that we were coming. I’d paid in
person weeks before, but of course I hadn’t thought to confirm. With a frozen smile on my face, I pleaded for
mercy through gritted teeth. More children arrived and I began mentally
checking off the stuff I wouldn’t have time for, like decorations or any sense
of calm, rah-rah birthday parenting. Not
that any of it mattered in comparison to dragging the whole crowd over to my
messy house or out in the parking lot.
Before we knew it, Battalion Chief Barry Henby
had arrived to rescue us.
Adorableness worth every birthday party penny. |
Joey got to sit in a big
fire truck and RUN THE LIGHTS AND SIREN.
All the kids secretly despised him for getting to do something so
cool, none moreso than his little brother Maxwell. The photo below is an excellent example of how Max was a master at picking the worst times to pitch a fit. At three years old, Max could blow a good
time in thirty seconds flat, if he wasn’t the center of attention. It amazes me that Max is the polite, sweet boy he is today. We thought he just might grow up to be a serial killer back then. It's a good thing he was so damn cute.
Max being Max and Joey in firetruck heaven. |
All in all, I walked away
thinking that Barry Henby was one heck of a guy. I wasn't alone. By that time, Barry had
clocked many hours becoming one of Gurnee’s greatest guys. When I started to write a book about some of the wonderful people I'd drawn, Barry graciously agreed to give me the dirt on what it's like to be a local hero, although he'd never call himself that.
Barry grew up in Tuscola , IL ,
a small farm town. He earned an associate’s degree in criminal
justice from a junior college and a BS in Law enforcement administration from Western Illinois
University . He
wanted to go get some bad guys.
Barry met his wife, his soul
mate of 36 years, in college. “We had a
first aid class together,” he told me. “I
tried to fix her up with some of my friends and three years later, we got
married. She thought I was rich because I
bought her flowers every week, then she found out the sad truth.”
“When I got out of college,
my mom made me look for a job and I got hired as a police officer in Glencoe , IL . I loved
being a police officer. People thanked me for arresting them sometimes because I did my job
in the most pleasant way I could. I
didn’t get aggressive or nasty. I
figured I was just putting them into the system and the judge would
figure out what to do with them. I knew some police officers in different
communities who let the power go to their head."
Becoming a police officer in
a Chicago suburb was a rude awakening for a farm
kid from central Illinois . “When I came up here, I was
shocked at how many more officers were needed because of what people do to
themselves and to others. When a burglar invaded
someone’s home, the victims were devastated to be so violated. It was hard to see the outrage and anguish they
felt. Glencoe had a high Jewish
population, and there were some terrible anti-Semitic phone calls. It was a shock to see what people thought was
funny and the resulting pain it caused.
Yesss! We have guns. Rock on. |
“My buddy Paul and I were
passionate about our jobs and VERY motivated. We were rookies with only two months
under our belts, but by the end of our shift, we caught bad guys right and
left, filling the jail. It was fun to be a police officer! We were constantly high fiving each other and enjoying
the heck out of it.
“The chief let us
borrow his unmarked squad car for burglary
control at night. One night, I responded to a call with lights and sirens.
Someone pulled out in front of me and I locked the brakes, skidding into a big boulder in front a residence. It sent the car flying onto a woman’s front
porch, crashing into the house. The
lights were flashing, radiator was steaming, it was a mess. Back then, we didn’t wear seat belts and I’d
really hurt my back. I was staggering
around in pain and the lady came out on the porch, yelling, ‘Oh no! A drunk hit my house! Call the police!’ I said, ‘Lady, I am the police.’
“When I was in high school, I
loved the show Emergency! Going on rescue calls was amazing; everyone could tell that I liked it
so I went to paramedic school and I was first in my class. I wasn’t that smart, but if I hadn’t passed,
I would have gotten fired. My wife and I
were thinking about starting our family and I was scared half to death of what she'd do to me if I didn't pass.
“Today, on a rescue call, you’ll see two or three paramedics at the
site. Back then, there was only one and
they relied on you to know your stuff.
One of my first saves was when we were defibrillating a guy and giving
medication. To see everything that I was
trying actually work blew my
mind. To see someone hurt with major
trauma, apply the skills that I’d been given, and save a life. It was wild."
Barry also delivered a baby in
someone’s home. "Ironically, the parents
were a doctor and a nurse who waited too long.
I was on the scene with a lieutenant who was on the receiving end of the
mother to be, so to speak, while I was on the telephone with the hospital, letting
them know that the baby was coming. The
lieutenant called me over to check something out, and then grabbed the
telephone from me, tricking me into changing places. That was something to see a life come into
the world right in front of me.
“I’d heard good things about
the Gurnee fire department. I interviewed for the chief and got on as a
volunteer. About a year later,
I tested for a full time fire fighter/paramedic. Working for the fire
department has been wonderful. I’ve
helped deliver three children in town. I
was the first one in on the Warren
Township High
School fire.
“Hey,” Barry interrupted
himself, “I don’t need to take up too much room in your book. You just tell me when you’ve heard enough of
my crap.”
What? Was he kidding? I loved this guy and he was more a part of
my history than I’d realized. The high
school fire had happened my senior year at Warren, in December 1984.
It had gutted our school, destroying the oldest, wooden part of the
building which had included the English department. I loved to write and my favorite teacher of all time, Mrs. Johnson in freshman Honors
English, had such a student following that older students had returned to build a
stage in her room. She had years and
years of costumes, props and precious writings from the school’s creative
magazine. So much of it had all gone up
in smoke with the rest of our senior year. My classmates and I stood
beside the wreckage, peering up through the charred
gash that had once been the center of our school, our lives. I was in tears. I graduated early and felt robbed of those last happy high school days.
I remembered that the fire
had been initially extinguished and we were all so relieved. But then hot spots had re-ignited and burnt
it beyond repair.
Barry corrected me with some rare frustration. “That’s
not how it went down. We knocked out the
first fire really quickly and then the kid came back and started it again. I hated how it overshadowed the incredible
work we’d done on the first fire.
“Another big fire happened at
a hotel in Waukegan, eight
people had died. We climbed to the sixth
floor, discovering a number of deaths. I carried a barely alive, elderly woman
through the flames six floors down on the rickety fire escape while a buddy of
mine helped navigate. She was in her
nightgown and had suffered smoke inhalation… it was a pretty dramatic sight. When we got down to the ambulance, I was
exhausted and rested off to the side while they put the woman on a
stretcher. Suddenly,
TV cameras rushed in and my buddy got all the credit for the
rescue! He got calls all the way from California
congratulating him. He kidded
me, insisting that I hadn’t actually been there, telling me I’d imagined it.
“We work hard, but hanging with the guys at the firehouse is the best.
A lot of them are young and crazy, messing with each other all the
time. When we have carrots for dinner, I
can’t look away or someone will grab a carrot off my plate, stick it up his
nose and put it back before I know it.
We’re always playing jokes, picking
a bed up off the floor while someone is sound asleep, then dropping it. Sometimes I can’t go to the bathroom without
someone sticking a video camera over the stall.
“But when it comes time to do
our job, we’re instantly focused on what needs to be done for the public. We get it done.”
Barry told me that it isn’t
enough just to fight fires and protect the public. They need voters to support their fire
department with taxes in order to get the training and equipment they need. "We have to get out there and
show the public what we do,” Barry stressed.
“I believe strongly in the customer service aspect - how we treat the
public. We send get well cards, signed by the fire chief and the paramedics, to
anyone who lives in Gurnee when they are involved in an ambulance call with
us. We have birthday parties for
children. We
open our doors to college or high school students looking for
technical/vocation education, and have them ride along with us. We're among the best fire
departments in the state on customer service."
And it does make a difference.
Barry did a demonstration for the kids at school stressing the importance of having a home fire exit plan. Children should know two
ways out of every room, families must have a meeting place outside. Our kids came home from school
determined to make an exit plan, which we did. Barry was featured
on a fire department poster that I saw hanging at the kids' schools. His friendly, capable face made you feel
safer just looking at him.
“What an honor!”
Barry exclaimed. "I guess it's my small town
roots, but I think you should help your neighbors. I cut the grass for some of my senior
neighbors, give them a hand if they need help, take down their Christmas
lights. Isn’t that what you’re supposed
to do?"
I presented Barry with his portrait at his honoree dinner in front of 250 people, who each knew him personally. “My mom came up from central
"My wife gets uneasy with some of the
accolades. She was a good sport, but she
doesn’t like being the center of attention.
You can take one look at my wife and know why I fell in love with her, she
is such a beautiful lady."
A few years after Joey’s party, we ran into Barry in line at Ace hardware. My kids recognized him instantly and stood up a little straighter, brightening at the prospect of rubbing elbows with a local celebrity. They poked each other and whispered loudly, peeking at him. I said hello, shook his hand and reminded him that he’s saved the day for Joey’s party. He acted as though he remembered (it takes a good fake-rememberer to know one) and proceeded to pull magic tricks out of his pocket for the kids. He did a little show for them, right there in line, which as much gusto as if he were performing for a roomful. I asked if he always walked around with magic in his pocket.
“Of course!” he said, as if there wasn’t any other way to live.
In 2010, Barry retired after thirty years of service to the Gurnee fire department. With so many important accomplishments, so much to take pride in, Barry probably doesn't remember the September day in 2003 that meant so much to a frazzled mom trying to show a sweet little seven year old boy how very much he's loved. Our hero. |
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